Comments on: I want to be self-sufficient from my parents, need a high-paying job with HS diploma only? http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/ www.smallkitchengarden.com Fri, 13 Jan 2012 08:52:02 +1300 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: k8thesnake http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/comment-page-1/#comment-722 k8thesnake Sat, 28 Nov 2009 07:45:04 +0000 http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/#comment-722 $29,000 per year...you will never be able to make that working part time...unless you are a stripper, or a model perhaps. I mean there are jobs that you can take, but the amount of time and energy that you will have to put into them will greatly effect your school work. Just let the rents pay for it. If anything, get a part time job to save money for when you are actually done with school so that you can move out of your parents house and get your own place. $29,000 per year…you will never be able to make that working part time…unless you are a stripper, or a model perhaps. I mean there are jobs that you can take, but the amount of time and energy that you will have to put into them will greatly effect your school work. Just let the rents pay for it. If anything, get a part time job to save money for when you are actually done with school so that you can move out of your parents house and get your own place.

]]> By: John M http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/comment-page-1/#comment-723 John M Sat, 28 Nov 2009 07:45:04 +0000 http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/#comment-723 Seek scholarships and/or financial aid tied directly to you. You don't want to work full-time AND go to college if you can avoid it, and you apparently CAN avoid it. There's an old saying, "Don't look a gift horse in the mouth." You should follow that. Your parents probably feel they are INVESTING in your future by getting you through school. Get over it, let them do that, and make them proud by learning a lot and getting a great career. Seek scholarships and/or financial aid tied directly to you. You don’t want to work full-time AND go to college if you can avoid it, and you apparently CAN avoid it.
There’s an old saying, "Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth." You should follow that. Your parents probably feel they are INVESTING in your future by getting you through school. Get over it, let them do that, and make them proud by learning a lot and getting a great career.

]]> By: jebauman0812 http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/comment-page-1/#comment-724 jebauman0812 Sat, 28 Nov 2009 07:45:04 +0000 http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/#comment-724 I understand how you feel- I am a college freshman and I thought that I could just pay for everything. Boy, was I wrong. I filled out FAFSA and got NO money, and I have already spent half of what I made over this summer at my hourly wage job. There aren't really any high-paying jobs that require a high school diploma only unless it is fulltime, but that is definatley out of the question if you're in college. Just accept your parents' money and you will be better off. Having a job in college is not ideal because it eats up your time and your grades will suffer from it. So if you don't really need a job, I wouldn't get one. College is supposed to be fun : ) I understand how you feel- I am a college freshman and I thought that I could just pay for everything. Boy, was I wrong. I filled out FAFSA and got NO money, and I have already spent half of what I made over this summer at my hourly wage job. There aren’t really any high-paying jobs that require a high school diploma only unless it is fulltime, but that is definatley out of the question if you’re in college. Just accept your parents’ money and you will be better off. Having a job in college is not ideal because it eats up your time and your grades will suffer from it. So if you don’t really need a job, I wouldn’t get one. College is supposed to be fun : )

]]> By: nvone http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/comment-page-1/#comment-725 nvone Sat, 28 Nov 2009 07:45:04 +0000 http://www.smallkitchengarden.com/i-want-to-be-self-sufficient-from-my-parents-need-a-high-paying-job-with-hs-diploma-only/#comment-725 I paid for the majority of my own college, as did my husband, and I have to tell you it was very difficult for both of us. Before you try to take on this task yourself, I have to ask you....what is bad about your parents paying for college? Are they telling you what to major in? What time to be home at night? Who your friends can be? If all they are doing is paying the bill, then I would SERIOUSLY reconsider trying to take on that financial responsibility. Let me give you my 35-year-old perspective, to help you understand where I'm coming from. Your parents love you even though they probably have a hard time showing it and they irritate the heck out of you a lot of the time. They've screwed up many times raising you, and you both probably wish you could have some "do over's". That's normal. Your parents want the best for you, which means getting you the best education they can afford. This means that they'll probably have some slight expectations of you (good grades, no drugs/sex/alcohol....you know...stuff like that). They will have their opinions on what you should major in, who you should live with, how you should study, etc. They're plunking down big money for your school and they want to know that you're not wasting it. That's normal. You might not realize it now, but your parents will spend their entire lives trying to help you and take care of you in some way. When/if you get married they will want to help pay for your wedding. They will fly to your wedding and help you with it. When/if you have kids, they will want to be there to help you with a new baby. When you have to have surgery, they will want to be there, and will try their best to help however they can. That's normal. Here's the kicker....you will want their help and involvement, and you will want to help them and be involved in their lives. There is absolutely nothing wrong with accepting help from your mom and dad. They will be trying to help you for as long as they live! It is totally normal. I applaud your desire to be more self-sufficient. I also recognize that you are still young (you are, really) and see things from a different perspective. I understand the desire to break away from your parents, because I (and every other kid) went through the same thing. But wanting and gaining independence from parents is a process that takes time, and never really totally goes away. Paying for your own college won't suddenly make you "mature" or independent. Maturity and independence comes more from your mental and emotional state than it does your physical or financial state. Recognizing the role your parents will *always* play as helpers and supporters of you, and honoring that role by allowing them to help you with college will go a lot farther in your maturity and independence than paying for it yourself. Parents love to pay for their kid's college education if they can afford it...that's what they do! You'll want to do it for your kids and your grandkids, too. Continue accepting their financial help and just focus on your studies. Enjoy college and your twenties! Have a great time, get the best grades you possibly can and think about what you want to do with the rest of your life! And just think about how great it will be when you graduate, debt-free! You can be so proud of yourself, and your parents will be proud of you, too. You'll be well on your way down the road of independence, with your parents by your side cheering you on - just like you will want to do for your children! Best of luck to you, and I hope even a tiny bit of what I said helps. I paid for the majority of my own college, as did my husband, and I have to tell you it was very difficult for both of us. Before you try to take on this task yourself, I have to ask you….what is bad about your parents paying for college? Are they telling you what to major in? What time to be home at night? Who your friends can be? If all they are doing is paying the bill, then I would SERIOUSLY reconsider trying to take on that financial responsibility.

Let me give you my 35-year-old perspective, to help you understand where I’m coming from. Your parents love you even though they probably have a hard time showing it and they irritate the heck out of you a lot of the time. They’ve screwed up many times raising you, and you both probably wish you could have some "do over’s". That’s normal.

Your parents want the best for you, which means getting you the best education they can afford. This means that they’ll probably have some slight expectations of you (good grades, no drugs/sex/alcohol….you know…stuff like that). They will have their opinions on what you should major in, who you should live with, how you should study, etc. They’re plunking down big money for your school and they want to know that you’re not wasting it. That’s normal.

You might not realize it now, but your parents will spend their entire lives trying to help you and take care of you in some way. When/if you get married they will want to help pay for your wedding. They will fly to your wedding and help you with it. When/if you have kids, they will want to be there to help you with a new baby. When you have to have surgery, they will want to be there, and will try their best to help however they can. That’s normal.

Here’s the kicker….you will want their help and involvement, and you will want to help them and be involved in their lives. There is absolutely nothing wrong with accepting help from your mom and dad. They will be trying to help you for as long as they live! It is totally normal.

I applaud your desire to be more self-sufficient. I also recognize that you are still young (you are, really) and see things from a different perspective. I understand the desire to break away from your parents, because I (and every other kid) went through the same thing. But wanting and gaining independence from parents is a process that takes time, and never really totally goes away. Paying for your own college won’t suddenly make you "mature" or independent. Maturity and independence comes more from your mental and emotional state than it does your physical or financial state.

Recognizing the role your parents will *always* play as helpers and supporters of you, and honoring that role by allowing them to help you with college will go a lot farther in your maturity and independence than paying for it yourself. Parents love to pay for their kid’s college education if they can afford it…that’s what they do! You’ll want to do it for your kids and your grandkids, too.

Continue accepting their financial help and just focus on your studies. Enjoy college and your twenties! Have a great time, get the best grades you possibly can and think about what you want to do with the rest of your life! And just think about how great it will be when you graduate, debt-free! You can be so proud of yourself, and your parents will be proud of you, too. You’ll be well on your way down the road of independence, with your parents by your side cheering you on – just like you will want to do for your children!

Best of luck to you, and I hope even a tiny bit of what I said helps.

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